Is a good decision to study in Philippines?
Im
a sophomore High school student in California with a 3.9 gpa at the
moment. I got a choice for college, go to UC Davis or go to University
of Santo Tomas in Philippines. I want to go to UC Davis but my problem
is that I will get a huge debt. What I want is small debt. My mom is a
nurse and my dad works in a car manufacturing and doesnt get paid as
much as my mom. and we have a lot of stuff to pay. (house, car, etc.) My
parents want me to go to philippines cause it's much cheaper. But I
want a world class university like UC Davis. My plan for college is to
get a degree in Biology and then go to a med school for a doctorate
degree. If i will study in Philippines, i will have to go to med school
in there as well. If here, I would go to University of California San
Francisco. Eventually in the future i would like to have a job here in
USA. So is it a good decision to study in Philippines instead in UC
Davis?
Studying Abroad - 1 Answers
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You
need to study here. A medical degree from the Phillipines will require
more work here which will end up costing you more money. Have you
applied for a scholarship at UC Davis? If your parents do not make that
much you will get one.
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Wednesday, March 28, 2012
Wednesday, March 14, 2012
Please!!! My mother is ruining my life
Please!!! My mother is ruining my life!!!!?
I know this is long but i would really like some advise I am a 21 year old female...I am studying to become a nurse and I live with my mom who just moved to the USA until I graduate and can move on. I work part time and I honor my bills in the house while going to school. But she won't allow my boyfriend of 14 months to come over. He recently moved upstate and we decided to keep things going...he drives 3.5 hrs one way to see me and has to spend a lot of money for hotels etc. He was in town last wknd to see his family and needed a pl. to crash (get some rest) before his long drive back home. I told him to come over and we hung out cooked etc. My mom who was at work sent me racing txts asking him to leave or she will come home and it won't be nice.She also said "How Dare you?" and to keep my relationship out of her house. My bf said he will be getting out of here (my home) and he left. I cried so bad because although he wouldn't leave me I am afraid...no one deserves to be treated that way.His family is so genuine and welcoming to me.His mom loves me and we talk every time he calls her and she even asks how my mom is doing. My bf is much older than I am and he is an engineer and never pressures me into anything...until I am at least finished with my 1st degree. I am so frustrated my mom is not the kind of person you can reason with...she either hangs up the phone, ignores me or make ref. to how much I hurt her and all she has done for me (I have no clue what I did...I am a good student and I never talk back or disrespect her)...she is very selfish.He got my family gifts for christmas, sends me roses, talks with my dad and he we are really trying but I am afraid she is gonna make us break up or make him leave. i was thinking about writing her a letter tell her exactly how i feel and about her attitude. what you think? Please Sincere answers only... Frank...he does pay for our hotel...always!!! However he was out with his family and was jus tired...they had to check out the hotel at 11 and he was so close by he wanted to see me before he went back up!!!
Family - 4 Answers
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1 :
this is normal for parents, especially for a mom... maybe she's had some bad experience with an ex boyfriend... you and me on the same boat.. my dad's ok with me and my girl at home, alone or not.. while my mom doesn't.. if she had to come over, mom's on us everytime... - parents can be a pain sometimes.. do what i do.. try to understand her no matter how hard that is...
2 :
In my experience, narcissists are extremely resistant to any hint that they should change. It is possible that she may respond. I'd make sure the letter isn't venting (or write another letter that you never send to vent). Focus on how you care about her as your mother and want her to be part of your life and want to find out how she can get to know the man who may one day be the father of her grandchildren. She may stick to the "no living in sin in my house", in which case you might want to tell your boyfriend that you would rather see him in a motel than get roses.
3 :
Ermm, but you're 21. Aren't you a little old to be bossed around by your mom? D:
4 :
Personally... I'd move out at the earliest opportunity. Avoid moving in with your boyfriend, as A) that would only add fuel to the fire, and B) if it ends up no working out because you moved in together too soon, your only option is to go back to you mother. Start saving a little bit each month to put towards an apartment, and maybe talk to some of your friends and see if they're interested in being roommates. You might find that once you're away from you mother your relationship with her actually improves.
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I know this is long but i would really like some advise I am a 21 year old female...I am studying to become a nurse and I live with my mom who just moved to the USA until I graduate and can move on. I work part time and I honor my bills in the house while going to school. But she won't allow my boyfriend of 14 months to come over. He recently moved upstate and we decided to keep things going...he drives 3.5 hrs one way to see me and has to spend a lot of money for hotels etc. He was in town last wknd to see his family and needed a pl. to crash (get some rest) before his long drive back home. I told him to come over and we hung out cooked etc. My mom who was at work sent me racing txts asking him to leave or she will come home and it won't be nice.She also said "How Dare you?" and to keep my relationship out of her house. My bf said he will be getting out of here (my home) and he left. I cried so bad because although he wouldn't leave me I am afraid...no one deserves to be treated that way.His family is so genuine and welcoming to me.His mom loves me and we talk every time he calls her and she even asks how my mom is doing. My bf is much older than I am and he is an engineer and never pressures me into anything...until I am at least finished with my 1st degree. I am so frustrated my mom is not the kind of person you can reason with...she either hangs up the phone, ignores me or make ref. to how much I hurt her and all she has done for me (I have no clue what I did...I am a good student and I never talk back or disrespect her)...she is very selfish.He got my family gifts for christmas, sends me roses, talks with my dad and he we are really trying but I am afraid she is gonna make us break up or make him leave. i was thinking about writing her a letter tell her exactly how i feel and about her attitude. what you think? Please Sincere answers only... Frank...he does pay for our hotel...always!!! However he was out with his family and was jus tired...they had to check out the hotel at 11 and he was so close by he wanted to see me before he went back up!!!
Family - 4 Answers
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1 :
this is normal for parents, especially for a mom... maybe she's had some bad experience with an ex boyfriend... you and me on the same boat.. my dad's ok with me and my girl at home, alone or not.. while my mom doesn't.. if she had to come over, mom's on us everytime... - parents can be a pain sometimes.. do what i do.. try to understand her no matter how hard that is...
2 :
In my experience, narcissists are extremely resistant to any hint that they should change. It is possible that she may respond. I'd make sure the letter isn't venting (or write another letter that you never send to vent). Focus on how you care about her as your mother and want her to be part of your life and want to find out how she can get to know the man who may one day be the father of her grandchildren. She may stick to the "no living in sin in my house", in which case you might want to tell your boyfriend that you would rather see him in a motel than get roses.
3 :
Ermm, but you're 21. Aren't you a little old to be bossed around by your mom? D:
4 :
Personally... I'd move out at the earliest opportunity. Avoid moving in with your boyfriend, as A) that would only add fuel to the fire, and B) if it ends up no working out because you moved in together too soon, your only option is to go back to you mother. Start saving a little bit each month to put towards an apartment, and maybe talk to some of your friends and see if they're interested in being roommates. You might find that once you're away from you mother your relationship with her actually improves.
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Wednesday, March 7, 2012
What do I need to do to prepare myself for a move and extended stay in the Philippines
What do I need to do to prepare myself for a move and extended stay in the Philippines?
Hi, as of now, I am studying to become a chemical engineer, and I will have my degree in 3 years. Recently, I met a wonderful Filipina (in the States) and things are going great. However, when she moved back to the Philippines, she triggered a 10-year bar from the USA. We have overturned every stone to find a way for her to come back, but that route is closed for now. Rules are rules I suppose. So the only option for us, is for me to come to her and wait out the 10 years together. Once we finish the 10 years, we plan to move back to the United States. I am currently 24 years old, so by the time I get there, I will be 27 or 28. I am in deeply in love with her, but I still plan to finish my schooling. I have done a decent amount of research and have come to realize that; it is hard enough for Filipinos there to get a job, much less an immigrant, and worse than that - an uneducated immigrant. I need my degree. That much I am well aware. I plan to visit the Philippines on an extended stay (3 - 4 months) to get a feel for the culture, atmosphere, and general way of life. What should be my goals for my extended stay? What do I need to do there to understand what life will be like? As well as making my transition there easier? I intend to move in the province of Pampanga, or at least close to that area. I am wondering, what do I need to do to prepare myself and find a means of supporting me and her. She is a nurse - one of many, many nurses. In fact, there are so many nurses at the moment, that some of them are having to volunteer long before they actually get paid for doing the job. And this ties back into me getting my degree... again. I appreciate all the advice I can get from you guys. But I need some thought-provoking advice. I am looking for advice concerning how to quickly land a job. What should I look out for when finding a place for me and her to live? I know the southern area of the Philippines do not take kindly to anyone, but where else there is unsafe for an American. Better yet, where is the best place for my and her safety? I know her information and experience in the country will be priceless, but I need to have a fundamental understanding of what I am walking into. Also, is it likely, or even possible, to find a company here that will send me there? For example, getting hired by an electronic company here and the US, and stationing myself at one of their manufacturing plants there. If there is such a possibility, what do I need to do to find it? I plan to get internships during my summer semesters to the Philippines, if it is possible. Like I said, I love the girl more than anything, but I am trying to stay as level headed as possible. I still need to be a great provider, and not go into this blind. We are spending 3 years or each others lives doing this, so I don’t need to show up at the airport as an idiot, lol. Any wisdom and words of foresight will be greatly appreciated. Thanks! To Justin K.: Natural diasasters are of no concern to me... the USA has hurricanes, tornadoes, earthquakes, and many more as well. The reason I said 'around that area', is because her family lives there, and I wish to make a modest judgement call between how far away we live from her family and our jobs. To kentnooo: Thank you so much for the suggestion, but apparently, if you are barred from the US, you are also barred from North America more or less. We have thought of that, but we are thinking maybe New Zealand or such. But I in order for her to go anywhere like that, she would have to land a job first, from what I understand. Thanks again for the idea.
Philippines - 3 Answers
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1 :
Try to understand how ridiculously hot it is there... every... day. I know you won't believe me if I just tell you it's hot (even though I've been there), so just look at the stats. The dew point is over 75 just about every day. The all-time record low for Manila (day and night, any season) is like 57 degrees. Or 54... I forget. And I haven't mentioned the typhoons, earthquakes, and volcanos. Honestly, I think you're lying to us. I know what's in Pampanga. And I know you would move in with this girl, so why tell us "or at least close to that area"? Have a nice vacation.
2 :
hmmm,looks like your in a jam,have you thought about both of you going to another country,canada etc,hmmm maybe she could get a visa to there and you could move close to the border ,where theres a will theres a way,good luck.......i feel for you,wish i knew the answer,keep the faith ,i'm sure something will turn up
3 :
I must commend you on the tremendous amountof insight you have into the Filipino condition and realities. However, if you've never been to a third world country, no amount of research and knowledge as you have done will prepare you for what you will feel and think when you get off that plane; you may love it as a few do and you may not be able to wait to get the hell out of there. Yes, it is impossible to find decent paying work there for an "uneducated" foreigner. It may be ever so slightly easier to find work in the USA that would have you stationed in the Philippines, but those are always management positions that require tangible experience to boot. As another has said, the biggest detriment to your situation is the "10 year bar" that presumedly USCIS has imposed on your GF, presumedly again for some sort of immigration problem such as overstaying et al. I have to let you know that the US embassy considers the 10 year period as a matter of "guidance" only for determining if she would become re-eligible for another visa to the US--and not a guarantee by any means. In all practical terms, a bar of any sort is permanent. I know of no one barred from entry to the US who regained the right to revisit the country. At this point and to reinforce one of your ideas, it would be best for you two to seek a life in a third country such as NZ as you mentioned or perhaps Australia, Singapore etc. Canada and the UK may be good candidates as well but unfortunately for you, I believe they closely share immigration data with the US and her bar may show during a visa application check. Regardless, good luck and I hope you two find an acceptable solution.
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Hi, as of now, I am studying to become a chemical engineer, and I will have my degree in 3 years. Recently, I met a wonderful Filipina (in the States) and things are going great. However, when she moved back to the Philippines, she triggered a 10-year bar from the USA. We have overturned every stone to find a way for her to come back, but that route is closed for now. Rules are rules I suppose. So the only option for us, is for me to come to her and wait out the 10 years together. Once we finish the 10 years, we plan to move back to the United States. I am currently 24 years old, so by the time I get there, I will be 27 or 28. I am in deeply in love with her, but I still plan to finish my schooling. I have done a decent amount of research and have come to realize that; it is hard enough for Filipinos there to get a job, much less an immigrant, and worse than that - an uneducated immigrant. I need my degree. That much I am well aware. I plan to visit the Philippines on an extended stay (3 - 4 months) to get a feel for the culture, atmosphere, and general way of life. What should be my goals for my extended stay? What do I need to do there to understand what life will be like? As well as making my transition there easier? I intend to move in the province of Pampanga, or at least close to that area. I am wondering, what do I need to do to prepare myself and find a means of supporting me and her. She is a nurse - one of many, many nurses. In fact, there are so many nurses at the moment, that some of them are having to volunteer long before they actually get paid for doing the job. And this ties back into me getting my degree... again. I appreciate all the advice I can get from you guys. But I need some thought-provoking advice. I am looking for advice concerning how to quickly land a job. What should I look out for when finding a place for me and her to live? I know the southern area of the Philippines do not take kindly to anyone, but where else there is unsafe for an American. Better yet, where is the best place for my and her safety? I know her information and experience in the country will be priceless, but I need to have a fundamental understanding of what I am walking into. Also, is it likely, or even possible, to find a company here that will send me there? For example, getting hired by an electronic company here and the US, and stationing myself at one of their manufacturing plants there. If there is such a possibility, what do I need to do to find it? I plan to get internships during my summer semesters to the Philippines, if it is possible. Like I said, I love the girl more than anything, but I am trying to stay as level headed as possible. I still need to be a great provider, and not go into this blind. We are spending 3 years or each others lives doing this, so I don’t need to show up at the airport as an idiot, lol. Any wisdom and words of foresight will be greatly appreciated. Thanks! To Justin K.: Natural diasasters are of no concern to me... the USA has hurricanes, tornadoes, earthquakes, and many more as well. The reason I said 'around that area', is because her family lives there, and I wish to make a modest judgement call between how far away we live from her family and our jobs. To kentnooo: Thank you so much for the suggestion, but apparently, if you are barred from the US, you are also barred from North America more or less. We have thought of that, but we are thinking maybe New Zealand or such. But I in order for her to go anywhere like that, she would have to land a job first, from what I understand. Thanks again for the idea.
Philippines - 3 Answers
Random Answers, Critics, Comments, Opinions :
1 :
Try to understand how ridiculously hot it is there... every... day. I know you won't believe me if I just tell you it's hot (even though I've been there), so just look at the stats. The dew point is over 75 just about every day. The all-time record low for Manila (day and night, any season) is like 57 degrees. Or 54... I forget. And I haven't mentioned the typhoons, earthquakes, and volcanos. Honestly, I think you're lying to us. I know what's in Pampanga. And I know you would move in with this girl, so why tell us "or at least close to that area"? Have a nice vacation.
2 :
hmmm,looks like your in a jam,have you thought about both of you going to another country,canada etc,hmmm maybe she could get a visa to there and you could move close to the border ,where theres a will theres a way,good luck.......i feel for you,wish i knew the answer,keep the faith ,i'm sure something will turn up
3 :
I must commend you on the tremendous amountof insight you have into the Filipino condition and realities. However, if you've never been to a third world country, no amount of research and knowledge as you have done will prepare you for what you will feel and think when you get off that plane; you may love it as a few do and you may not be able to wait to get the hell out of there. Yes, it is impossible to find decent paying work there for an "uneducated" foreigner. It may be ever so slightly easier to find work in the USA that would have you stationed in the Philippines, but those are always management positions that require tangible experience to boot. As another has said, the biggest detriment to your situation is the "10 year bar" that presumedly USCIS has imposed on your GF, presumedly again for some sort of immigration problem such as overstaying et al. I have to let you know that the US embassy considers the 10 year period as a matter of "guidance" only for determining if she would become re-eligible for another visa to the US--and not a guarantee by any means. In all practical terms, a bar of any sort is permanent. I know of no one barred from entry to the US who regained the right to revisit the country. At this point and to reinforce one of your ideas, it would be best for you two to seek a life in a third country such as NZ as you mentioned or perhaps Australia, Singapore etc. Canada and the UK may be good candidates as well but unfortunately for you, I believe they closely share immigration data with the US and her bar may show during a visa application check. Regardless, good luck and I hope you two find an acceptable solution.
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Thursday, March 1, 2012
Im backed against a wall
Im backed against a wall..?
Im 25, I have a good job in Local Governement in the UK, but I dont have a degree. All my friends are in the same boat, we all work for great employers, who pay us a good salary, we are successful, we have our own flats, we have cars, and I have never been so Bored with my life. I am so tired of the UK, its weather, its people, everything. I have wanted to emmigrate to US, or Austrailia for a while now, and although our three countries are the closest in terms of culture, I have found out it is virtually impossible for me to be able to emmigrate. Friends and Family say at 25 that i should just settle down, start a family, buy a house... I feel like I cant breathe and that if I dont make the move to the USA now I will never live out my dreams, and then after seriously looking into it, I am told it is virtually impossible for british to obtain work permits, unless they are doctors/nurses etc.. I feel frustrated, and defeated, any advice on how the british move to US greatly appreciated
Immigration - 9 Answers
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1 :
I don't see why you can't...? Go to an emmigration web site and gather the info you need.....you'll probably get a green card first then you'll need to apply for citizenship. It takes a few years but it CAN be done....
2 :
It is more frustrating here! We have the worst illegal immigration CRISIS IN HISTORY. Our schools and hospitals have gone down the tubes. We are fighting dirty politicians tooth and nail. I would stay were you are it can't be as bad as it is here.
3 :
Boredom is a personal thing, a change of scenery can't change you, only you can.
4 :
You are a fine example of how illegal immigration adversely affects other people in the world who wish to immigrate to America. Illegal immigration is a loose/loose situation. .
5 :
Go first to Canada. It is easier to enter the US from Canada than from England. The laws are different. If know Brits that have done that without a problem. Once you are in Canada take what ever job is available until you are established. That is the real problem. Are you willing to give up your comfortable life style to start over at a scrappy bottom and work your way up again?
6 :
If you have the money, go to America on holiday to make sure you still want to immigrate. While you are here, you can visit the immigration office and get good information. It would help to have a Sponsor.
7 :
If you were to go back to school and get a degree in nursing or teaching, you could find a job in the US. We don't have enough nurses or teachers. IN Utah they are hiring Mexican teachers and my state, SC, has a program that allows teachers from other countries to work in SC schools. Another option would be to marry an American citizen. Good luck!
8 :
don't back off your dreams, just come legally
9 :
YES, luv.
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Im 25, I have a good job in Local Governement in the UK, but I dont have a degree. All my friends are in the same boat, we all work for great employers, who pay us a good salary, we are successful, we have our own flats, we have cars, and I have never been so Bored with my life. I am so tired of the UK, its weather, its people, everything. I have wanted to emmigrate to US, or Austrailia for a while now, and although our three countries are the closest in terms of culture, I have found out it is virtually impossible for me to be able to emmigrate. Friends and Family say at 25 that i should just settle down, start a family, buy a house... I feel like I cant breathe and that if I dont make the move to the USA now I will never live out my dreams, and then after seriously looking into it, I am told it is virtually impossible for british to obtain work permits, unless they are doctors/nurses etc.. I feel frustrated, and defeated, any advice on how the british move to US greatly appreciated
Immigration - 9 Answers
Random Answers, Critics, Comments, Opinions :
1 :
I don't see why you can't...? Go to an emmigration web site and gather the info you need.....you'll probably get a green card first then you'll need to apply for citizenship. It takes a few years but it CAN be done....
2 :
It is more frustrating here! We have the worst illegal immigration CRISIS IN HISTORY. Our schools and hospitals have gone down the tubes. We are fighting dirty politicians tooth and nail. I would stay were you are it can't be as bad as it is here.
3 :
Boredom is a personal thing, a change of scenery can't change you, only you can.
4 :
You are a fine example of how illegal immigration adversely affects other people in the world who wish to immigrate to America. Illegal immigration is a loose/loose situation. .
5 :
Go first to Canada. It is easier to enter the US from Canada than from England. The laws are different. If know Brits that have done that without a problem. Once you are in Canada take what ever job is available until you are established. That is the real problem. Are you willing to give up your comfortable life style to start over at a scrappy bottom and work your way up again?
6 :
If you have the money, go to America on holiday to make sure you still want to immigrate. While you are here, you can visit the immigration office and get good information. It would help to have a Sponsor.
7 :
If you were to go back to school and get a degree in nursing or teaching, you could find a job in the US. We don't have enough nurses or teachers. IN Utah they are hiring Mexican teachers and my state, SC, has a program that allows teachers from other countries to work in SC schools. Another option would be to marry an American citizen. Good luck!
8 :
don't back off your dreams, just come legally
9 :
YES, luv.
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