Married folks please answer!! desperately need advice?
I have been thinking lately to give up everything and just move in again with my hubby. He lives in Australia and currently I am here in USA. Almost 2 years ago I moved to Australia from US just to be with my hubby. He prefers Australia than US and I have the opposite view on this. I love US and it just feels like HOME which I never thought I would have to leave to any circumstances. Now here is the other part which always stops me leaving US. He's very unstable there, has over 80k bank loans ( the loans weren't for us, he took it before we got married for his parents and I didn't know until we got married ) also he didn't finish College yet and no he's not a teenager. He's a 30 years old man. He's also not physically fit have back pain issues which cause problems at work. If I go back my study will be hanged for few years. I am currently doing my Bachelor's degree on Nursing and will be finish with in 2 years. We are almost close to divorce cause of this issues we been facing for last 2 years. Both of us is tired and want a decision asap. It freaks me out to even think about getting a divorce but also in other hand it scares me what if I can't finish my study and get a better job to provide ourselves. I am just tired of all this and lately I am thinking about giving up everything and just go to him. And whatever is on fate will happen. I am still not sure if I should take the risk again because the first time I moved in with him we barely could afford the household expenses. And I had to come back to US to get my degree done. Please no rude comments. I am going through a very rough time. I will really appreciate all your input on this. Am I taking the right decision? Please give me some opinions.
Marriage & Divorce - 4 Answers
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If I'm not mistaken, you posted this same question not long ago, you are the one that his family and yours are all here in the United States. You received my responses as to his selfishness, thinking only about him. Be very careful, love is not about giving up what you treasure the most, but share that treasure with the one you love.
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why is he 30 and not married and stable? He is not going to move and if he is THAT old and unstable, that is a red flag, you should not have married him to begin with. Finish your education and tell him he has that much time to get established before you'll consider moving back.
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Dear Angel, I read everything you mention and if you put on a list the pros and cons between going to Australia or stay in US.....as you can see your list is big for the cons to go to Australia. As you mention staying in US you will have an education BA in nursing! Sounds like there is too much negativity by you leaving US, if he really loves you he can wait two more years until your done with your degree. That's what's marriage is for to support each other. It's selshish of your hiusband to put pressure on you and make you choose him or nothing! Wish you tge best of the luck to finish your degree!
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I know how you feel, my dear. If two people cannot work together on a problem, then that relationship is doomed. It takes TWO to work on problems. If your husband is not willing to consider your needs, or refuses to meet you halfway, or refuses to discuss the issues without continually defending himself, thinking he is right and you are wrong.......well then my dear, you do not have a marriage. It would be much better to keep your education goals in the forefront of your mind and heart, finish you education, and try to forget him. A man who will not work with his mate on issues, but always wants his own way, and refuses to change is selfish, and does not really love his wife. If he loved her he would be far different.
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